Tuesday, April 17, 2007

Sherry's Thoughts...

It's hard to believe that we held Kobi for the first time 4 months ago. It truly feels like he has been apart of us since day one. This little man brings so much joy to our lives. He has a birthday coming up next month and in honor of his birth mom I would love to send her a gift. We have never met but I think of her everyday. I wonder if the feeling is the same? I need some help in this department. If anyone in "blog land" has some amazing ideas (I mean any...) please leave them in my comments box. I was thinking of composing a book through Shutterfly and that is about how far I have gotten. I am open to anything. I really have know idea how May 16th will be for Kobi's birth mom but I can only imagine it to be a sad day for her. I figure even if she chooses not to accept the gift I still have tried and that I still have made some way to bring peace to her decision. Like I said I am up for any and all comments...Thanks Guys!

10 comments:

LaLa said...

Wow..you have birthparent info? So different from China I guess. I don't have any great ideas but the book sounds like a good one. I often think of Annslee's birth mom too...I just cannot imagine the pain that led to our joy.

Angela said...

We gave William's birth mother a locket with two of his baby pictures in it. That way, she can wear it and think of him without anyone else knowing what it stands for. Her eyes really lit up when she saw the pictures.

I think anything with pictures is a great idea. FYI: If you do decide to go with jewelry, 18K and up is the standard for Taiwan. Some people might be insulted by less than that.

Angela

Andrea M said...

I think a picture/book is a wonderful idea. I'm sure it would mean a lot to her to see how he is doing. That he's well loved and cared for, it could help her to know she made the best decision she could and give her some additional peace. I can't believe he's going to be one already!

shelley said...

I love the idea of the picture book. what about a chinese zodiac charm of the yr he was born? Or maybe one that says mother?

Time sure does fly when you are having fun.

shelley

Brady Balighian said...

Your video is absolutely amazing! Kobi is so very special and we love him very much. You and Matt went through so much to get him and he is so very lucky to be a part of your family. I think giving a gift to his birth mother is a great idea. I think a photo album would mean a lot to her. Give Kobi a kiss from all of us.

Ann said...

I think an album is a terrific idea. That way she can tuck it away and pull it out whenever she feels a need to feel connected to him.

Karen said...

We sent Casey's birthmother a photoalbum of his time with us -- though we weren't in most of the photos. We just wanted her to see how he was doing and know we were taking good care of him. We planned to update it with new pages each year. (She passed away in a tragic car crash when Casey was just 21 months old.) If you have any photos of her with him, you might frame that, too.

Also, when we went to meet our son (and his birthmother), we brought them matching (small) stuffed animals. We explained to her that we'd bought him one just like hers as a way to "connect them," and that he would grow up knowing that that was "their" special animal. . . I guess you'd need someone to translate that into Chinese, though-- but not outside the realm of possibility, I'd imagine.

karen in san diego
http://bsinchina.blogspot.com

Sherry said...

Thank you all for the ideas!! It is so nice to hear everyones thoughts on this. I can say "Karen" that I never thought of sending a stuffed animal to Kobi's birth mom & buy him the same one. I like the concept! "Allen & Angela" thanks for the jewelry tip. (You can never go wrong with jewelry:) "Shelley" the Zodiac charm sounds pretty cool too. Now off to shopping...which I love to do best! Again guys thanks for everything and all your ideas!

Anonymous said...

Could you please tell me the woman on the right of the screen is Kobi's birth mother?

Sherry said...

Anonymous~

No that woman is his foster mother along with her daughter. They live in Taichung...